Tuesday, August 8, 2006

Stressed.

Pondering the chances of ever getting another job ever if I were to not only not accept an offer from my firm but also quit working effective nearly immediately. I think [Hours] has finally pushed me a too far. I realized I'm like a battered wife who is always making excuses for their abuser and I am not sure I can keep it up anymore.

11 comments:

BANKRUPTCY_ATTY said...

Honestly, the hardest thing to do when you are faced with a difficult decision is to keep perspective. Right now, you have one more year of law school to finish, - then the Bar. It takes most law firms about 5 years to train an attorney to the point of breaking a profit. You currently have enough legal experience to make you attractive to another employer. Keep focused, if they treat you badly, they lose, put out the resumes; its just business.

LegallySuited said...

Chances = good. This is a summer job, right? And it is August? Can't you just take a little break before school starts? No one needs to know how much notice you gave. Although I am learning that the legal community is small, so can you do this all in a way that won't make this firm talk nasty about you?

A friend of mine, who is just finishing a clerkship, turned down the position at Big Firm, where she had summered, to go work in a government job. The recruiter at big firm gave her shit and made her feel horrible, but the partners and everyone else who mattered told her that she "had to do what was right for her" and that she would always have a place at Big Firm.

Moral of the story: Tell your firm that you are going into Peace Corp or something equally heroic... ;) In any case, don't waste your time working at a place you hate, life is really too short to be miserable!!

Anonymous Law Student said...

The good girls will take a black eye, get back up, and keep refusing to do the dishes.

Stick in there.

AngryBell said...

There will always be another job out there. There are always more experienced attorneys looking to abuse younger attorneys. Isn't that a pleasant thought?

Moral Turpitude said...

Have you made a decision??

M said...

that sucks Elle! you can stick it out for the rest of the summer, then reinterview, right?
BTW the old format was a lot more accessible. Bring it back, but keep the comments!

Elle Woods said...

No decision yet.

M-No can do, I could not figure out how to put comments in the old one.

Thanks for all the support!

M said...

What are you talking about elle, don't you remember russ and mike callin you out all the time in your old comments? =P.
On the other (less important) thing, make them sweat it out, no matter what you choose, you've worked too hard for these bastards.

Eric B said...

Hi Elle, I can identify with your situation. Just make sure you realize that this is his fault and not yours. It's easier said than done. I worked for someone who was probably worse than your boss and I took a huge amount of criticism because that's what abusers do to distract you from their abhorrent behavior.

As far as leaving the firm, I'm sure you will make the right decision in the end. I would play along to get an offer from this firm, but make sure you stand up for yourself. If you let him walk all over you, you may start feeling bad about yourself for letting someone demean you like that.

Best of luck in making this decision! And please do me a favor and make him look bad on the golf course.

PS Whoever said associates don't make a firm any money for 5 years is just dead wrong. That is how lawyers make real money, off of the sweat and toil of the associates! My firm grossed well over $200k from me my first year and obviously my salary was a fraction of that since I did not work for a big firm. I just wouldn't want you to read that post and feel you don't have any leverage in the situation. You have a lot of leverage, you sound like you are smart and a hard worker and I know you are a good writier. Best of luck again!!!

Elle Woods said...

Thanks E, but I think we both know I'm only a good writer when my secretary is proof reading.

Eric B said...

Elle, unless your secretary proofs this blog I stand by my statement. Best of luck to you.